Spoiler Alert: If you have not yet reached the first night Anna spends with Grey, you may want to wait on this post.
In 50 Shades of Grey, Christian reveals that how he was introduced to both sex and BDSM – by being seduced by his mom’s best friend at the tender age of 15. Later, while Anna chews this over, she thinks, “Wow that’s young!”
This kind of irked me, not because I agree (or disagree) with the whole cougar thing between him and his mom’s friend or the BDSM involved, but rather Anna’s ignorance regarding sexual interactions. Granted, she does seem pretty ignorant of a lot of sexual activities (but she gets the hang of a blow job on her first try so I’m not totally sold on her ignorance). What irked me is how real this ignorance is in real life and not just fiction.
I get a lot of strange looks when people find out I’ve already had “the talk” with my kids – who are both under the age of 8. The example Grey shares is exactly WHY I have had this talk with them. Did you know the national average age of sexual activity (there is a difference between activity and intercourse) is 9 years old? Being introduced to sex at the age of 15, is not shocking. Consider this a PSA and make sure to talk to your own kids about sex.
In my earlier post, I mentioned how unrealistic it was for anyone to use this as a handbook for sexual activity, it’s great to get new ideas from books, even this one, but not something to learn about sex from. However, if you are not talking with your kids, who are impressionable, THEY MIGHT use this or something like it as a handbook by which to learn.
You might be wondering why I would bother posting something like this? It seems a pretty stable trend that a lot of moms are reading this book, so if you’re one of them, ask yourself – have you started an open and honest dialogue with your kids about sex? If not, maybe it’s time to start.