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Distractions and Sex

www.SouthernPleasureParties.comA few weeks ago the kids and I were at Disney World (yep – again) for Mickey’s Not So Scary Halloween Party. This was my second trip without hubby in the parks with me, and first ever without him at least at the hotel with me (he stayed home this trip). Something that I learned from the first trip was to not let distractions distract me while out and about with my kiddos. Disney can be a very busy place and it would be super easy to get separated and have quite the fright. It always tickles me a bit when I see people so deep into their technology at Disney World they fail to really be in Disney World. I want to shake them a little and say, “Take it all in!”

Why am I writing about this in a post titled, “Distractions and Sex?” I’m getting there. After dropping my kiddos off to school this morning, I was driving to the gas station and heard an interesting story on NPR that I very much related to, and thought immediately that some of you might as well. What caught, and then retained, my attention, was an audio blurb from the interview, “I love reading, and I am someone who can actually become so absorbed in a novel that I really think the house could possibly burn down around me and I wouldn’t notice. And I’m simultaneously someone who loses their keys at least three times a day, and I often can’t remember where in the world I parked my car” (NPR, 2012).

I almost smacked the dashboard and exclaimed, “That’s me!!!” But I didn’t – that would have hurt.

It made me think of women in general today – while not everyone is an avid reader, how many of us are able to focus on one thing – reading, writing, crafting, running, etc. to the exclusion of all other events and activities around us? Yet, when it comes to everyday things, we’re a bit scatter brained. The interview went on to explain a study on how people are distracted and what it does to their brains, distractions included Facebook (social media in general), text messaging, and phone applications. It made me think of how often we are multitasking everyday – from several tabs or windows open in our internet browsers, to texting while watching a movie or show, to listening to an audiobook while driving and maybe doing something else like drinking or eating.

Which made me think of sex. Our brains are so overstimulated and distracted throughout the day, that when we are ready for sex – it can be a real struggle to keep our minds on the here and now of the bedroom (or bathroom, or closet, or where ever you’re being intimate). The big problem with that, is that an orgasm for a woman comes largely from mental (and physical of course) stimulation. If we can’t keep our minds focused on what’s happening to us now and how it’s making us feel, we can often be left unsatisfied. Think back to the last time you had some lovin’ (be it solo or with a partner – either is fine) – how many times did you mind drift to the next thing on your to-do list? As women, to increase the pleasure and frequency of orgasms, we need to focus on the task at hand and exclude all other distractions – turn of all your screens, silence ringers, and make sure you have some time for just you. Now, of course, if you’re on a tight schedule, rub on some Pure Satisfaction and it’ll speed the process right up.

Thompson, H. & Vedantam, S. (2012). A Lively Mind: Your Brain on Jane Austen. Retrieved from http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2012/10/09/162401053/a-lively-mind-your-brain-on-jane-austen

Everyone has a first party…

This month will be my 2 year anniversary into the business of Passion Parties. I can still remember my first party as both a hostess and a consultant. Both were very different experiences. Whenever a new consultant joins Team Bed Rock, their sponsor launches them into the business with a Debut or Starter Party (we sometimes nickname it a “Coming Out Party”). Not only is it helpful for a leader to do this for new consultants, it’s a healthy reminder for those of us who have been in the business for a while.

Last night I had the pleasure of having a new consultant tag along with me to a party. Although I can remember my nerves from my own first party as the consultant, it’s very distant from me. New consultants help me remember so many things – for example, the importance of your first hostess.

Are you considering having a party? Is your consultant a new consultant? Here’s a couple of things to be aware of with some new consultants:

1. They’re nervous! It’s their first party totally on their own and they want YOU to have fun. So be forgiving if they make any mistakes. I remember my first couple of hostesses – Lea and later Betsy. These women gave me my start in the business, and to this day – they are royalty to me. I give them deep discounts as my first hostesses and try to send them gifts on their party anniversaries.

2. They may forget the names of the products they’re showing – just go with it! I can remember at Betsy’s party when I forgot the name of a product and some shouted out, “That looks like a man sucker!” – it made me feel so much better that these women were just into having a good time. So, if your gal forgets the name of a product – no biggie, have fun with it. To this day, I still call Gigi my “man sucker” of the night. Who knows, maybe in a year from now – you’ll be someone’s hero?

For my newbies reading this out there – my 2nd hostess Betsy taught me a valuable lesson – sometimes they don’t call back for a good reason. Over the past 2 years I’ve seen lots of consultants become discouraged when a hostess or potential hostess did not call, text, or message them back. This happened with Betsy – she booked her party with me in July for the end of August. I went three weeks with no reply from her. I even called her a week before her party and left her  a voicemail simply saying that if I didn’t hear back from her by a certain date, I’d assume right now wasn’t a good time for a party and that she could reschedule for a later date. Keep in mind at this time – she was my only party so that was hard for me to do. Two days before the party date, and well after the deadline I mentioned, she called and apologized for not being in touch – her first grandchild had been born! She’d been with family in CA (I lived in Vegas at the time) and had been out of touch.

What did Betsy teach me? Patience. Sometimes they don’t call back because something is going on, so always assume that it is before you cancel the party in your mind.

All in all – newbies are just as much fun to party with as seasoned consultants. So if you’ve got a newbie doing your party – be excited! She may be nervous, she may forget the names of some products, but she’ll be looking to give you a good time and is very excited about the products she’s showing. If you’re a newbie reading this – the most important tip about your first party is: HAVE FUN! Don’t worry about forgetting the product names, or doing everything just right according to training – you’re going to slip up, accept it and have fun with your guests!

To learn more about becoming a part of Team Bed Rock (we’re nationwide, in Canada, and Puerto Rico!) CLICK HERE. To learn more about hosting your own FREE Passion Party, CLICK HERE.

Money, money, money ….

A common question I hear is, “Do you make good money doing that?” So I thought I’d take some time on today’s blog to answer this question.

YES! I make great money doing what I do. But something I’ve discovered is a lot of people assume I’m paid in products or that I don’t make much at all. With Passion Parties, I earn up to 50% of my party sales. Let me break it down for you:

On average, I have 3 parties a week, with my parties averaging $750 a piece. This means, I earn approximately $375 a party. Parties take anywhere between 2-3 hours from the time I arrive to set up until the time I pull out of the drive way. The way this breaks down is 15 minutes for setup and another 15 for tear down, 45-60 minutes for my interactive presentation (no lectures here), and the remainder of the time goes to the Consultation Room where women come see me to book their own parties, place their orders, and ask questions. I’d say there’s about 6 hours during the week for party prep which will bring my weekly work total to 15 hours a week.

When I have 3 average parties, I earn around $1125 profit which breaks down to $75 an hour.

Of course, there are parties that are bigger and there are parties that are smaller. Either way, I earn more money than what I started with. 🙂

Passion Parties also includes cash bonus – my bonuses this year average around $300 a month. In February I earned a $600 cash bonus from Passion Parties which was pretty awesome!

I am also blessed with an amazing team of women – Team Bed Rock, who span across the United States and Canada. On average, I’ve earned $500 each month from working with these amazing women.

After the commission from my own sales, the generous cash bonuses from Passion Parties, and the commission from Team Bed Rock – my take home averages $2800 or more a month. This is for around 60 hours of “work” a month, which is less than 2 weeks at a full-time job.

This isn’t to say I don’t work hard – because I do. I talk with my hostesses, work with my team, and make an effort to meet new people every day. But this isn’t hard work, it’s fun work! It’s life changing and helps really develop people on a personal level, it’s fulfilling, and most of all – it’s flexible.

Have you ever considered becoming a Passion Party consultant? Through the end of May, you can get started for as little as $29! Feel free to ask me questions – there’s no obligation. And if you’re sitting on the fence, host a party! As a hostess you earn free products and if you decide to become a consultant – we’ll get you off to a great start.

I take great pride in getting the women (men are welcome too!) on my team off to a great start. When I became a consultant, I had a very caring sponsor but figured a lot of the party out on my own and my party average wasn’t $750 at the time – it was closer to $350, which meant I was taking home around $150, give or take. Still not bad for a a couple of hours of work. I’m so proud that the new women on my team average $350-$500 in party sales.

Have you ever hosted a Passion Party or considered becoming a consultant?


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